Who’s Bed is it Anyway? My Cat Thinks He Owns My Bed


It’s a common scenario for cat owners – you’re getting ready for bed when your cat suddenly jumps up onto the mattress and makes themselves comfortable, as if they own the place. You start to wonder, does my cat think this is their bed instead of mine? Cats can exhibit certain territorial behaviors that may lead owners to believe their feline views the bed as their own personal property. Understanding the psychology behind why cats sleep in their owner’s bed can help illuminate whether they truly think they are the bed’s rightful owner.

This article will explore the common reasons cats like to sleep in their owner’s bed, including instincts for security, displays of affection, and scent marking. We’ll also provide tips for compromising and sharing the space with your feline bed buddy. Getting insight into your cat’s motivations can help you determine if they genuinely view your bed as their own.

Territorial Nature

Cats are known for being territorial creatures by nature. This instinct stems from their ancestral origins as solitary hunters, where they needed to claim certain areas and resources as their own for survival (Source). A cat’s predatory instincts and desire to have control over their environment can lead them to exhibit territorial behaviors like scent marking, aggressive posturing, and claiming valued spots like beds as part of their territory.

Many cat owners notice their cats becoming quite possessive of their bed in particular. This is because a human’s bed contains that person’s scent and provides warmth, comfort and security – all things cats value highly. By claiming a human’s bed as its own territory, the cat is essentially extending its perceived domain and resources. This satisfies the cat’s primal need to have ownership over valued spaces and objects within its home range (Source).

Understanding this key territorial instinct can help explain why cats often exhibit behaviors like kneading, scratching, and lounging on their owner’s bed. They are driven by nature to mark out spaces that belong to them. With patience and some training, owners can reach compromises that allow kitty their sense of ownership while maintaining boundaries.

Scent Marking

Cats have scent glands in various parts of their body that they use to mark areas as their territory (2). These include glands around their mouth, chin, tail, paws, cheeks, and flanks (1). When a cat rubs up against objects like walls and furniture, it deposits pheromones from these glands onto the items to claim the space (2). Cats also scratch furniture or areas on walls to leave both a visual mark and a scent mark from the glands on their paws (1). By leaving their scent in an area, they are communicating that “this territory belongs to me!” to other cats. Intact cats and unspayed females are more likely to scent mark their territory than neutered or spayed cats (2). But even altered cats may continue to rub, scratch, and mark areas they consider their domain. Understanding scent marking behavior is key to redirecting cats to appropriate areas and objects in your home.

Security and Comfort

Cats often see their owner’s bed as a safe and comfortable place to sleep and rest. According to Your Cat Wants to Sleep in Bed with You: Some Reasons …, cats feel more secure and less stressed when sleeping next to their owners in bed. The warmth and comfort of a bed, combined with the presence of their trusted human companion, helps cats feel protected.

Beds are soft, warm, and cozy – all things that appeal to a cat’s comfort-loving nature. As prey animals, cats are also drawn to small, enclosed spaces when sleeping as it makes them feel less vulnerable. Curling up on or under the covers allows cats to feel sheltered and safe. A human’s bed has the added benefit of having their bonded human right there, which further reinforces the bed as a secure retreat.

Social Bonding

Cats often sleep in their owner’s bed as a way to bond socially with their human companions. When a cat sleeps next to you, they are seeking affection, attention, and a sense of security. According to Understand Why Cats Like Sleeping On The Bed, sleeping together allows cats to spend quality time interacting and strengthening their relationship with you. Cats are social creatures that need bonding opportunities to form a close connection. Sleeping together provides this critical social time.

As pack animals, cats view their owners as part of their pride and family group. By sleeping intimately with you, your cat is showing they consider you a trusted member of their inner circle. According to Cats and Bed: Why Your Cat Loves Sleeping On You, despite perceptions that cats are aloof, they actively seek affectionate bonds with their humans. Choosing to sleep next to you is a sign they want to be near those they love and regard as part of their social unit.

The bed is also where humans are most accessible for social interaction. When your cat joins you in bed, it provides an inviting opportunity for them to cuddle, purr, rub against you, and enjoy positive engagement. This special one-on-one time strengthens your social connection. Allowing your cat into your bed shows them you reciprocate this bond.

Separation Anxiety

Cats are social creatures that form strong bonds with their owners. When a cat is separated from their owner, they can experience anxiety and stress [1]. This is known as separation anxiety. One common symptom of separation anxiety in cats is sleeping in their owner’s bed when the owner is away [2].

When a cat is anxious about being left alone, they may seek out their owner’s scent for comfort and security. Sleeping in the owner’s bed allows the cat to be surrounded by the familiar and soothing scent of their human companion. The cat may feel safer and less stressed when curled up in the owner’s bedding. It provides a sense of closeness to their beloved owner.

Cats may pace, vocalize, or engage in destructive behaviors when experiencing separation anxiety. Sleeping in the owner’s bed is a less harmful way for cats to cope with the stress. However, long-term it can reinforce anxious behaviors if the cat learns to depend on the owner’s scent and presence in the bed.

To reduce separation anxiety, experts recommend gradual training like giving the cat stimulating toys when alone and setting up a comfortable space for them. Medications and pheromones may also help anxious cats feel more relaxed. But sleeping in the owner’s bed is an instinctive way cats try to self-soothe when distressed about separation from their human companion.

Training Tips

If you want to train your cat not to sleep in your bed, there are some effective techniques you can try:

Use deterrents – Place double-sided tape, aluminum foil, or a motion-activated alarm on your bed to startle your cat and make them avoid jumping up. The texture and sound can be unpleasant and discourage them from sleeping there ([“How can I teach my cats not to sleep on my bed?”, Quora]).

Restrict access – Close your bedroom door or use a baby gate to prevent your cat from freely entering your room and sleeping in your bed. This limits their access and opportunity to view your bed as theirs.

Provide alternatives – Give your cat an elevated cat bed, cat tree, or cozy cat cave bed in another room so they have an appealing place to sleep instead. Rotate different beds to maintain interest.

Reward desired behavior – If you find your cat sleeping in their own bed, give them treats and praise. This positive reinforcement can teach them where they should sleep.

Be consistent – Whenever you find your cat in your bed, immediately remove them and direct them to their own bed. Persistence is key in training cats.


There are some compromises that can help both you and your cat feel comfortable sharing the bed. One suggestion is to get your cat their own bed that sits next to or at the foot of your bed. Cats like having their own space, so providing them a bed of their own can give them a sense of ownership and security while still being close to you (1). You can make the cat’s bed inviting by adding a warm blanket or one of your lightly worn t-shirts so it smells like you. Some cats may prefer an enclosed cat bed or one up on a shelf so they can perch above you.

You can also try designating certain times the cat can be on the bed, like when you’re not in it or at night when you’re sleeping. Use treats to positively reinforce when they get off the bed on command. Providing plenty of vertical space and cat trees in the bedroom can also give your cat appropriate places to scratch and climb. Ultimately, a compromise involves give and take on both sides. But a little bit of training paired with providing your cat their own enticing sleeping space can help you share the bedroom happily.

When to Seek Help

If your cat’s clinginess or anxiety seems excessive or disruptive to their daily life, it’s a good idea to seek veterinary help. Some signs that professional assistance may be needed include:

  • Not eating or drinking normally
  • Aggression when you try to remove them from your bed or leave the home
  • Excessive vocalization or crying
  • Inappropriate urination or defecation outside the litter box
  • Destructive behaviors like scratching furniture
  • Hiding for long periods of time
  • Lethargy, lack of interest in play or other activities

A vet can rule out any underlying medical conditions causing your cat’s clingy behaviors, like arthritis, dental disease, or hyperthyroidism. They may prescribe anti-anxiety medication or suggest pheromone diffusers to help relieve stress. In some cases, referral to a veterinary behaviorist may be recommended for customized treatment plans. The earlier you seek help for clinginess and anxiety, the better the outcome typically is for your cat.


[1] https://www.rover.com/blog/how-to-get-my-cat-to-sleep-at-night/

[2] https://www.catster.com/guides/reasons-your-cat-sleeps-under-the-bed/


In conclusion, there are several natural reasons why cats may try to claim their owner’s bed as their own territory. Cats are territorial creatures who use scent marking and feel comfort and security in high vantage points. They also form close social bonds with their owners and can exhibit separation anxiety. While this behavior is natural for cats, there are some training tips and compromises that can help owners reclaim their bedspace. With patience and consistency, owners can teach their cat that the bed is for humans only. If behavior persists or causes conflicts, seeking advice from a pet behaviorist is recommended. Overall, seeing your cat in your bed is a sign of affection, but boundaries can be established so everyone gets a good night’s sleep.

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