10 Purr-fect Ways to Show Your Cat You Love Her

Show Affection Through Petting

Most cats enjoy being petted, as long as it’s done gently and in places they like. When petting your cat, use long, gentle strokes down the back and under the chin. Cats have sensitive whiskers, so avoid stroking their face directly. Instead, gently scratch under the chin, cheeks, or around the ears. Let your cat sniff your hand first so she knows you’re not a threat. Pet gently to avoid overstimulating or startling your cat. If your cat leans into your hand or purrs, she’s enjoying the attention. But if she moves away, swishes her tail, or turns to nip, she’s signalling that she’s had enough. Respect her boundaries and give her some space.1

Playtime Together

Cats are natural hunters and as indoor pets, they often do not have an outlet for these instincts. Dedicating time each day for active play with toys like feather wands or balls gives cats an opportunity to behave instinctively. Interactive playtime allows cats to chase, pounce, and stalk, satisfying their inner predator. Feather wands in particular encourage jumping, running, and grabbing, which provides great exercise too. Playing together is a great way for cats and humans to bond since it encourages fun, positive interactions. Cats prefer toys they can chase, so moving toys like wands or scrunchies with bells are ideal. Playtime also builds confidence and trust in shy or fearful cats (https://www.bluecross.org.uk/advice/cat/how-to-play-with-your-cat). With daily play sessions, owners can build a strong connection with their cats through this engaging and stimulating activity.

Treats and Snacks

Offering tasty treats in moderation is one way to show your cat love and care. As part of a balanced diet, treats can provide enrichment and excitement at feeding time. Just be sure not to overdo it, as too many treats can lead to weight gain or other health issues. When shopping for treats, look for high-quality options without artificial ingredients or fillers. Veterinarians recommend trying single-ingredient freeze dried treats or options like Temptations that keep cats engaged. Only provide a few treats daily, using them for reward-based training or when your cat seems stressed. With moderation, treats show your cat you want her to be healthy and happy.


Cats need to be groomed on a regular basis to keep their coats healthy, clean, and free of knots and tangles. ASH recommends brushing your cat a few times per week, more often for long-haired breeds. Brushing removes dead hair so your cat doesn’t swallow too much during self-grooming, which could lead to hairballs. It also redistributes skin oils to keep their coat conditioned. Brushing is a relaxing experience for cats when done properly.

Use a slicker brush designed for cats to gently brush their body, working section by section. Avoid brushing too hard. Give extra attention to areas more prone to tangles, like the base of the tail and behind the ears. ASH says long and medium-haired cats should be brushed daily, while short-haired cats only need brushing about once a week. Finish with a comb to catch any remaining tangles.

Regular brushing removes loose hair before it can become matted. Matted fur pulls on a cat’s skin leading to discomfort or even skin infections. Brushing also helps you bond with your cat through this calming ritual.

Comfortable Bedding

Cats love soft, warm places to curl up and sleep. Providing comfortable bedding is one of the best ways to show your cat you care. Look for beds made of plush fabrics like faux fur or microsuede that will feel nice against your cat’s coat. Place the beds in quiet, calm areas of your home so your cat can fully relax without distractions.

Heated beds are a great option for elderly cats who need extra warmth for their joints. Try the K&H Thermo-Kitty Heated Cat Bed which has a removable heater to keep just the right temperature. Or look for enclosed beds like the Frisco Cat Cave Bed which allows cats to burrow in cozy privacy.

Cats also love sleeping up high, so consider wall-mounted beds or perches near windows to make your cat feel secure. Place beds in several rooms so your cat always has somewhere familiar and comfortable to retreat to.

By providing the perfect napping spot, you’ll know your cat feels relaxed and content in your home.

Litter Box Care

Keeping your cat’s litter box clean is crucial for their health and happiness. According to veterinarians, you should scoop out solid waste from the litter box daily to keep odors at bay (How Often to Clean a Litter Box, According to Veterinarians). For clumping litter, experts recommend replacing all of the litter at least every 1-2 weeks, or more frequently if you notice strong odors coming from the box (How Often Do I Really Need To Clean My Cat’s Litter Box?). The frequency may depend on factors like the number of cats using the box and the type of litter you use.

Cats are very clean creatures and like to have a fresh, odor-free litter box. By scooping out solid wastes daily and changing the litter completely every week or two, you can help provide your cat with a clean bathroom experience. This will help avoid issues like your cat eliminating outside of the litter box. Keeping the litter box fresh and clean shows your cat how much you care about their needs.

Healthy Diet

Feeding your cat a nutritious diet suited for their age and activity level is essential for their health and happiness. Kittens and cats up to one year old have different nutritional needs than adult or senior cats, so choose an age-appropriate cat food. Look for brands that meet AAFCO standards for complete and balanced nutrition like Purina, Royal Canin, Hill’s Science Diet, Iams, and Blue Buffalo https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbes-personal-shopper/article/best-cat-food/. Both wet and dry food can be part of a healthy diet. Wet food has higher moisture content while dry food helps clean teeth. Feed the amount recommended based on your cat’s weight. For active, energetic cats or kittens, choose a high-protein formula. Older or less active cats may do better with a lower calorie food. Provide plenty of clean, fresh water alongside meals.

Vet Checkups

Regular vet checkups are a crucial way to show your cat you care about her health and wellbeing. The American Association of Feline Practitioners recommends bringing cats to the vet at least once yearly for a wellness exam starting at 6 months old. Kittens should start vet visits as early as 8 weeks old and continue every 3-4 weeks until 6 months old [1].

An annual vet visit allows the vet to check your cat’s overall health, administer needed vaccines, test for illness, and address any concerns you may have. Beyond yearly checkups, you should also bring your cat to the vet if you notice any sudden changes in behavior or appetite, vomiting, diarrhea, increased thirst or urination, weight loss or gain, lameness, seizures, or other signs of illness or injury [2]. By promptly bringing your cat to the vet when health issues arise, you demonstrate loving care for your feline companion.

Safety at Home

Cats are naturally curious and like to explore, so it’s important to cat-proof your home by removing potential hazards. Make sure to keep medications, toxic houseplants, and chemicals locked away where your cat can’t access them. Store breakable objects and valuables out of reach and cover sharp table edges with corner guards

Secure loose wires, cords, and blind cords since cats may chew on them. Use cord covers or tape them down to avoid the risk of electric shocks. Keep the toilet lid closed to prevent your cat from drinking toilet water or falling in.

Provide your cat with safe spaces to climb like cat trees, shelves, and scratching posts. Place sticky shelf liners or double-sided tape on surfaces you don’t want your cat to jump on. Consider installing baby gates to limit access to certain rooms. Use latch covers and locks to keep your cat out of cupboards and rooms with dangers.

Make sure windows have safety screens to prevent falls. Install sliding door stoppers and consider a catproof window screen if your cat likes looking out windows. Keep balconies netted or screened in. Check for any small openings your adventurous cat could squeeze through and seal them up.

Keep bathroom doors closed and store any toxic cleaners up high in locked cabinets. Place rubber mats in your bathtub and shower to prevent slips and falls. Regularly check under furniture and appliances for hazards.

By cat-proofing potential dangers in your home, you can create a safe environment for your cat to happily and safely explore (https://www.armandhammer.com/en/articles/how-to-cat-kitten-proof-your-house).

Love and Attention

Cats thrive on love and attention from their owners. One of the best ways to show your cat how much you care is to make time each day to interact with them. Set aside periods for snuggle sessions in your lap or next to you on the couch. This physical closeness and stroking helps reinforce the bond between you. Your cat may respond by purring loudly, kneading you with their paws, or giving you affectionate nuzzles and licks. According to Purina, “Purring is often used as a sign of pleasure and contentment. This is often expressed during close contact, such as stroking or grooming, but purring isn’t just reserved for these special moments. Cats may purr when they’re content or happy too.”

It’s also important to schedule active playtimes where you can engage your cat with interactive toys like wands and balls. An energetic game of chase with a favorite feather toy is a great way to delight your cat and show them you care. Just be sure to let your cat catch and “kill” the toy occasionally to satisfy their inner hunter. Your full attention during these play sessions emphasizes the special relationship between the two of you.

Setting aside laps and playtimes specifically dedicated to your cat makes them feel valued. The more affection and care you show your feline friend, the stronger your loving bond will become.

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