Why Does My Cat Keep Headbutting Me? The Surprising Reason Behind This Quirky Behavior


We’ve all experienced it – you’re sitting on the couch minding your own business when your cat leaps up and enthusiastically bumps their head into yours. It can be cute but also confusing. Why exactly do cats headbutt us? What are they trying to say with this odd feline gesture?

This common cat behavior has several possible explanations. Headbutting can signify different meanings based on your cat’s personality and their relationship with you. It’s important to understand the nuances to fully appreciate what your cat is communicating.

In this article, we’ll explore the reasons behind headbutting, what cats are trying to express, and how to respond to encourage more of this cute cat quirk if you enjoy it.

What is Headbutting?

Headbutting, also known as bunting or head bonking, refers to when a cat gently bumps their head or rubs their forehead against a person, animal, or object. It involves the cat pressing their head and face against something while often moving their head up and down in a repetitive motion. This behavior serves several communicative functions for cats

According to The Rescue Vets, headbutting is a natural feline behavior that owners will often notice their cat doing. It can manifest as anything from a gentle bump to a head rub to a forceful press of the cat’s head against something. The key aspect is the cat making deliberate contact with their head.

Reasons for Headbutting

Cats often headbutt as a way to show affection and bond with their owners. When a cat rubs their head against you, they are depositing pheromones from glands around their face and marking you as “theirs”. This helps create a close relationship between cat and owner [1]. Headbutting is a cat’s way of saying “I feel safe and happy with you”.

Cats will also headbutt objects like walls and furniture to mark their territory. By spreading their scent, they are letting other cats know that this is their domain [2]. So when your cat headbutts you, they are marking you as part of their family and territory.

Another reason for headbutting is to get your attention. Cats often headbutt their owners when they want to be fed, petted, or played with. A gentle headbutt is your cat’s way of saying “hey, don’t forget about me!” It’s their way of bonding with you and making sure their needs are met.

Marking Their Territory

One reason cats headbutt their owners is to mark their territory. Cats have scent glands around their face, cheeks, chin, forehead and lips. When a cat rubs or bumps their head against something, they are spreading their scent and leaving behind pheromones. This lets other cats know that this territory is familiar and safe. According to The Rescue Vets, “When cats headbutt each other, they transfer scent from the glands in their cheeks and head to create a group scent profile. This helps create a colony scent, and is also a sign that they feel safe and bonded with each other.”1 So when your cat headbutts you, they are marking you as their territory and part of their colony.

Showing Affection

One of the main reasons cats headbutt their owners is to show affection. When a cat headbutts you, it causes the release of oxytocin in both the cat and the human. Oxytocin is known as the “love hormone” or “cuddle chemical” and is associated with bonding, attachment, and positive emotions [1].

Research has shown that when a cat headbutts its owner, both the cat’s and human’s oxytocin levels increase. The rise in oxytocin makes both the cat and human feel happier, more relaxed, and deepens the bond between them [2]. Headbutting is a way for cats to get close to their owners and express their affection through physical touch and oxytocin release.

In addition to headbutting, other ways cats show affection by stimulating oxytocin release include purring, kneading, rubbing, grooming, and being in close proximity to their owners. The oxytocin feedback loop creates a mutually loving interaction between cats and their humans.

Getting Your Attention

One of the main reasons a cat will headbutt you is to get your attention, especially when they are demanding something like playtime or food. Cats quickly learn that headbutting their owners often leads to receiving treats, affection, or play. So they will intentionally bump their head against you or your hand as a way to request interaction or food. This behavior is common in the morning or evening when cats are most active and eager to play. Or they may headbutt right before their normal mealtimes as a not-so-subtle reminder that it’s time to eat. Some cats may even headbutt cell phones, books, or other objects their owner is paying attention to if they want the focus to be back on them instead. So persistent headbutting can signal that your cat wants you to redirect your attention to them and provide some type of stimulation or sustenance. It’s their way of saying “notice me!” and “give me what I want!” through physical touch. If you give your cat what it wants each time it headbutts you, it will quickly learn to associate bunting with receiving a desired response.

(Source: https://www.therescuevets.com/education-resources/cat-care-tips/why-cats-headbutt/)

Kneading and Purring

In addition to headbutting, cats often show affection through kneading and purring. Kneading, sometimes called “making biscuits”, is when a cat presses its paws in and out against a soft surface or object, such as a blanket or their owner’s lap. It’s an instinctive behavior that kittens use while nursing, as it helps stimulate milk flow from the mother. Adult cats continue this kneading behavior when feeling content and comfortable. The motion releases endorphin hormones in the cat, bringing a pleasurable sensation. Many cats will purr loudly during kneading. The combination of kneading and purring is a clear sign of a happy, affectionate cat.

Purring also signifies contentment. While cats may purr when hurt or sick, they purr loudest when feeling safe and cared for. The low, rhythmic rumbling sounds are soothing and comforting to cats. Pet owners can encourage kneading and purring by providing soft bedding and frequently petting or holding their cat.

According to an article on Coops & Cages, kneading is also thought to be a territorial behavior. When a cat kneads against something, it marks this scent onto the object as a way of marking their territory. Other cats will be able to smell this scent and know that this object belongs to that cat. So kneading can be both an affectionate and possessive behavior.

Individual Cat Differences

Cats exhibit headbutting and other affectionate behaviors to varying degrees. Some cat breeds are known for being more social and affectionate than others. For example, Bombay cats often give very direct headbutts as a sign of affection, whereas Abyssinian cats may rub their heads against people more gently.

Beyond breed tendencies, individual personality plays a large role. While some cats may frequently headbutt their owners, others do so rarely. Much depends on the cat’s unique relationship with their human and overall comfort level expressing affection physically. The cat’s upbringing and degree of socialization also impacts behavior. Kittens that are handled frequently and positively from a young age often become more physically affectionate adults.

In summary, headbutting frequency and style varies not only across breeds but also between individual cats based on their personality and bond with their owner. Paying attention to a cat’s unique communication style is key to understanding their headbutts.

Encouraging Headbutting

There are some simple ways you can encourage your cat to show affection through headbutting:

Petting – Gently petting your cat, especially around the face, head and cheeks, will encourage them to rub against your hand. The petting motion releases soothing pheromones that tell the cat you care.

Treats – Offering treats when your cat headbutts you positively reinforces the behavior. Over time, the cat will associate headbutting with getting something tasty.

Play – Engaging in play with toys like feather wands stimulates cats’ natural hunting behaviors. A round of play makes them excited to headbutt and rub against you. Try keeping a toy near where you sit so your cat can playfully headbutt you when ready.

It’s important not to force interactions when encouraging headbutting. Let your cat initiate at their own pace so they feel safe and comfortable showing affection on their terms.


In conclusion, when a cat headbutts you, it is usually a sign of affection, trust, and contentment. Headbutting allows cats to leave their scent on you as a way to mark their territory and show you belong to them. It also serves to get your attention, similar to when cats rub against your leg. Some cats may headbutt more than others simply due to their personality. While you may find the headbutting behavior endearing, be careful not to overly encourage it, as this could lead to your cat headbutting unsuspecting guests. Overall, view your cat’s headbutts as a unique way they show love.

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